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The two things everyone needs

There are two things that every one of us needs. Now that I’m seeing these words in front of me I realize there are probably are more than two, but go with me on this one – I’m in a flow.

The two things we need are… drum roll please…

  1. Time alone
  2. Time with others

Hang with me for a minute. Most of us are good at one of these, but not so good with the other. Most of us make one of these a priority, but probably not the other.

Artists tend to be be great at the alone part. Not so great at the other people part. Artists aren’t big on the social stuff. They say what they need to say through their art. It is their expression. It is their conversation. It is also a mask behind which to hide.

There are others that tend to be great at the social thing, but stink at doing anything alone. They are validated by conversation and interaction, but don’t really like being alone with their thoughts, isolated from the noise of life. They will do almost anything to keep away from deafening silence.

To have one without the other creates an imbalance at best. One of my favorite devotional writers says it this way:

“Talent develops itself in solitude; character in the stream of life.” ~ Henry Drummond

Talent without character is grotesque display of self.  Character without talent is a life without impact.

We need both.

To have both, we need solitude and the stream of life. Time alone and time with others.

Maybe it’s time for some balance.

Don’t forget to play today!

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In all of your busyness today, don’t forget to play. This video illustrates it perfectly.

Enjoy something simple today. Get excited about something. Take a break for a minute and play!

Quit the circus!

“Everything being a constant carnival, there is no carnival left.” ~ Victor Hugo

We’ve all felt it.

You hit a home run. You hit an all-time high. You’ve just given a Gold Medal performance.

That’s good, right?

Sure it is.

But then, right on its heels comes the pressure to top yourself.

It’s relentless.

And predictable.

Then you start thinking that everyone else expects you to do it every time. You know you probably can’t deliver at that level every time, but what do you do?

If you’re smart you celebrate the personal best.

You enjoy the moment.

Then you go back to doing what you do because you love it. You do it because you love people. You do it ignoring the pressure to join the circus.

Nobody is great all the time.

Nobody.

Quit the circus.

Refuse to perform in the carnival.

Ignore the pressure.

You’re better than that.

You’re better than that all the time.

 

Umm… about your juggling act…

Let’s face it. If you’re talented, creative and motivated, you will have more opportunity than hours in a day. All of them are probably good opportunities – but are they the RIGHT opportunities?
Clue: everything is never the right thing.

Be selective about the “right” opportunities for you.

I’m not talking about right in the sense of right vs. wrong, but right in the sense of right for you – also right in the sense of “it doesn’t belong to someone else.”  There is an ongoing battle we all have with can vs. should. Can is usually only a small part of the equation.

Should is everything.

Ok, so “right” is tied to “should,” but how do you discern both of those in reality? Here is a short list of questions that may help you determine “right” and “should” for you.

Is it an opportunity you have been looking for/waiting to appear?

Is it something that someone else could do at least 80% as well as you? If so it’s probably theirs.


Is there something you are willing to stop to take on the opportunity?


How does it affect your family?


Will it crowd out anything else essential?


Honestly, will seizing the opportunity energize you, or wear you down?


Is the time/money ratio reasonable? Or if volunteering, is the time/reward ratio reasonable?

    How would you change this list? How do you keep your life in balance? Leave a comment sharing your criteria. Help us with our juggling acts, too!

    I’m baaaaack!!!

    I took the summer off.

    Yes, I did.

    A full three months.

    This blog sat without an update all summer long. Well, except for that one day when I apologized to all of you for just disappearing. It wasn’t that I forgot or anything… it was on purpose. I had my reasons. They were good ones, too. No regrets and lots of takeaways.

    Here are just a few of my summer takeaways:

    A good family is to be cherished.

    It was my son’s last summer at home before college. It was a season of transition for Debbie and I – a trial run for learning to be “empty nesters,” or as we fondly call it, “second honeymooners.”  The bottom line: I wouldn’t have traded the family time this summer for anything. It served as a great reminder that it’s always better to make good choices than live with regret. Especially about family.

    Live what you preach.
    I can’t tell you how many times I blogged about following your dreams, taking risks and overcoming your fears. During the summer I got quiet and reflective enough to realize that those posts were probably more for me than you. This blog was safe for me – a way of expressing without much risk. I found out I was hiding. The bottom line: I have known for years that I was supposed to record a solo project, but hadn’t done it yet. Well, this summer we finished my studio at home and I officially started recording my solo worship project. I’m following that dream, taking risks and overcame the fear. It will be really good, too. I’m thrilled with the songs and the production so far. The first few have set the bar really high for the rest of it.

    You can’t sprint forever.
    It’s all about the pace. Well, sustainability is all about the pace. I made the jump from blogging weekly to blogging daily without blinking or counting the cost. It came so easily at first that I thought “why not?” Then it started to drive me and I felt the pressure of it. Sure, I still enjoyed it, but I couldn’t sustain it with everything else on my plate. The bottom line: Counting the cost would have helped me to make a better decision regarding pacing and progression. Weekly to semi-weekly. Semi weekly to daily. Lesson learned. I will re-pace myself to become a sustainable semi-weekly blogger.

    I’m baaaaack!!! In more ways than one. I’m stronger, wiser, and better for the summer break.

    How about you?

    Hope you missed our little talks…

    The Art Of Rest

     
    “Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass on a summer day listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is hardly a waste of time.” 
    ~ Sir John Lubbock 
    Slow down… 
    Easy to say. Hard to do. But… it’s the right thing to do. When was the last time you disconnected, or had a day with nowhere to go and nowhere to be? 
    The world will continue to spin in your brief absence from it’s demands.

    Rest is an art, and it must be practiced. You must give yourself permission to practice it.

    Balance is calling. Will you listen?